Posted by messadivoce on July 17, 2005, at 22:54:09 [reposted on July 22, 2005, at 0:51:25 | original URL]
In reply to Let us end this thread.. » happyflower, posted by pinkeye on July 17, 2005, at 21:58:17
Pinkeye, even though Happyflower was upset, I think she has a really good point. What makes her different from you? You are a good person! You don't deserve to be hit any more than Happyflower did, or anyone else on this board. You think that you deserve this kind of treatment, that you are making it happen. You are not that powerful!!! We cannot control the actions of others!!! All we can do is control what WE do. If YOU treat yourself crappy then you are giving everyone else an excuse to do the same!
I know you do not want to leave your husband, and I can understand that. I do think, however, that calling a hotline and just telling someone what is happening to you would be helpful. Your husband has a lot of power over you to keep you from telling people what is happening. I do fear for your safety, because right now your husband has no reason to stop. IMHO, you need to give him a clear reason to stop. People who are more trained and knowledgeable than I can tell you how to do this.
Pinkeye, you say you don't have the strength to do this, but you do!! You have gone through so much difficult stuff, and you have managed to come through it an intelligent, kind, insightful person. You have more strength in you than you know.
Hugs to you.
Voce
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