Posted by Tamar on July 3, 2005, at 17:41:11
In reply to Re: Guilt guilt guilt, should I let it take me dow, posted by maggie1970 on June 29, 2005, at 12:30:17
Hi Maggie,
Sorry, I’ve been off-line for a couple of days. But I do want to reply to you, even though I’m a bit late getting here.
I think it’s in your own best interests to be honest with your counsellor. Counsellors aren’t supposed to be judgmental, and in any case I really don’t think you’ve done anything wrong, so she’d have no reason to judge you.
Counsellors are often comforting, but they’re also usually quite astute about getting to the root of the problem. So she might be able to help you to explore why you feel so guilty about something that wasn’t actually your fault. She might ask you about times you felt guilty in your childhood, or she might help you to think about the thoughts you have when you feel guilty, and explore ways of thinking differently about events in your life that lead to feelings of guilt.
Counselling isn’t always easy, but I think you know that. And I’m sure you have the strength to face your fears and to make significant progress. Ultimately the more honest you feel able to be, the more you will get out of it. We’ve all done a few things we’re not proud of; even counsellors! Talking about it helps us to get these things in perspective. In your case, I hope that counselling will help you to realise that having feelings for a married man is not evil, and did not cause the breakup of his marriage!
Keep posting and let us know how things go.
Tamar
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