Posted by alesta on May 6, 2005, at 23:41:53
In reply to Re: because even THEY don't know what they truly, posted by sunny10 on May 6, 2005, at 10:08:27
hi sunny :)
yes, i think that's probably it, too! (that even they don't know what they truly want)
(although now he is totally pissed at me cause i challenged his behavior..and he no likey.:) )
ugh..but it's not a nice thought to revisit, though. can i just go in denial now, pretty please? (and the bad, bad feelings come flooding back in the form of a gargantuan tsunami from hell.) well, at least now i can retire all this bloody speculation and basically move on.:)
> They have lied even more to themselves than they do to me, usually...
i know. word. :)
<take my SO for instance...> In order to work things out with me, it is not enough that he apologized and said all of the right things. Unless he can admit to a third party (therapist) that he needs to learn how to work through his feelings and not bury them in chemical substances and DO the WORK to actually learn HOW, I can't trust his words.
>
> I've trusted them before...i'm glad you're putting your foot down..it sounds like you have a good gameplan worked out for you and your SO...i think many addicts might be itching to talk to someone deep down perhaps. good luck dear!:)
aim;)
poster:alesta
thread:494163
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