Posted by AdaGrace on May 6, 2005, at 8:58:47
In reply to rant.. » AdaGrace, posted by alesta on May 5, 2005, at 21:11:41
Alesta,
I know I am going to get some flack for saying this, but here goes.
Men, at least the ones that I have met, seem to be so weak. They can't own up to their feelings. They are often cads and tell us what we want to here. They know by saying those words.....
I'll always love you.
You are my soul mate.
You will never lose me.
You are the best thing that has happened to me.
Yadda Yadda YaddaBy saying those words to us, making us feel special, they are getting us to the point in which they have us tied up in a neat little package sitting there on their bed just waiting to be in love.
It's sickening acutally. I .....as a women in the throws of pre-menopause, mid-life crisis, extramarital affairing......can honestly say, I have NEVER said something to a man about how I feel that wasn't true. I have so many faults, but I have never said "I love you" and not mean it.
Just like you, I don't understand the "fight to the very end" part in men. Competition? I guess. I hate men for doing this. They are possessive, and yet don't want us to be. They are demanding, and yet don't want us to be. They are callous, cruel, and oftentimes very hurtful, and yet we fall for the line everytime. One sweet sentence makes me forget all the previous hurt they did. Guess that means I am weak as well. A sucker. A huge fat sucker for pretty words. Wish I could become stronger. Wish I could be the hard*ss I want to be. And for God's sake, I wish I felt better about myself and stop this search for attention and sex from others instead of my husband. I don't like him. I don't even love him anymore. But we are friends now. Until the next episode of tyranical rule and yelling, spitting, emotionally abusive fit.
So I stay, because I think I should. Because I feel I deserve no better. Because I am used to it. It's sad really.Geeze, when did this become about me? Alesta? Did I ever tell you how pretty I though your name was?
AdaGrace
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