Posted by alesta on May 6, 2005, at 23:12:10
In reply to Re: rant.. » alesta, posted by AdaGrace on May 6, 2005, at 8:58:47
hi adagrace:)i can so relate to everything you said girl. and, hey, i am bloody tired of talking about myself.:) it's depressing. i would love to hear about you!
god, i wish you felt better about yourself, too..you have been so amazing to me during a very difficult period. i didn't know your husband was abusive. i just left an emotionally abusive relationship myself.
so do you think maybe you would ever consider leaving him ITF? i wonder if you think you might find that more painful than the abuse? your relationship sounds very unsatisfying, gracie. you know you deserve better, ada. you are a beautiful person..why would you think otherwise? and don't even let yourself internalize the hurtful words your SO says to you, all right? i used to plug my ears constantly so i couldn't hear the venomous spew coming out of my ex's mouth..because the words hurt that bad.
no wonder you are seeking sex and attention from other men, sweetie. i started to stray in my last (extremely abusive) relationship, too, and that is totally uncharacteristic of me. i know it was b/c of the abuse. so please don't beat yourself up..abusive men have this toxic affect over you..it's like you seek out other men to preserve your emotional stability or something..to restore what the abusers took away..and only another man seems able to fit the bill in satisfying that (i'm not being objective at all on this last point..that was just how i felt, i guess..i can't speak for you, ada.)
sweetie, you aren't getting your needs met..quite the opposite..he is destroying your self-esteem. don't you know that you are a beautiful person? that i care about you and so do others here? that you don't have to feel like this?
sorry..i jumped in with both feet on this one, lol..you don't have to answer my questions if you don't want to, but i would love to hear your answers. i really just wanted to try and help you, too. but maybe you just wanted me to listen. you deserve happiness, hon. another option is therapy..i wonder if y'all have considered that.:)
<Alesta? Did I ever tell you how pretty I though your name was?
:-) uh uh! i'm so glad you like it! you already know i love yours. :)
amy:)
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