Posted by octopusprime on November 1, 2004, at 10:21:48
In reply to Re: Just discovered my SI is using illegal drugs-HELP » dazedandconfused, posted by sunny10 on November 1, 2004, at 9:15:44
sunny,
so sorry you are feeling so down.
i know if i had slept as poorly as you have, i would feel confused and irrational. do you have something to help you sleep? a t or a pdoc for support?
if i was in your shoes i would try not to make any major decisions until YOU are feeling more like yourself.
you ask a lot of very difficult questions in your posts. it sounds like your SO is asking a lot of you - love him, support him, keep him away from drugs. since your SO is a functioning adult (i assume), it is HIS responsibility to love himself, support himself, and keep himself away from drugs FIRST. i don't think it's fair of him to push that responsibility on to you.
so you have to ask yourself a very tough question ... what do you want from this relationship FOR YOURSELF? are YOUR needs being met? what kinds of things do you want to do with your life? can you picture your SO realistically being by your side while you bring positive change into your life?
i hate to recommend this book, lest i sound condescending, but i know i really benefitted from reading "codependent no more" when i was dealing with addiction and drug use in somebody i loved.
all the best of luck. please put YOU first.
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