Posted by rskontos on December 9, 2008, at 11:36:02
In reply to Re: Dissociation and me As I see it (triggers-maybe), posted by B2chica on December 9, 2008, at 8:51:24
Hi B2chica,
I am glad to you, I have missed you, you know.
I think my parts knew better that hubby did not need to know. After a discussion, I think it was just before Thanksgiving, my memory isn't good right now (which my t said is due to the dissociation that is happening so much for a reason), with my husband it was clear to me and to my t when I told him what my H said that he just can't hear it. He said and I paraphrased that he did not want to know about the abuse in more deal because it would slant his view of me. More of less is what he meant not exactly what he said. So t said we will keep him out of it for now.
I knew he would feel this way. I can't examine that right now. TMI for now. At some point I will think about how I feel about that but not now.
And you are right kids are so smart and intuitive. But my son only wants to know I am ok. We discussed it and his bottom line was are you ok. Yes I am . End of discussion. My daughter wants me to be happy. Well that is a stretch but I will get there I hope. Anyway, happiness is a process not a state of being.
Yeah, co-consciousness is interesting. Something I never had until therapy. I don't have it will all just a few. But I can't act during the c0-sharing I just know a bit of what is happening. Just unable to stop whatever is happening. It is more frustrating sometimes when I am acting in a way I would not normally act.
My T and I have talk about it some but not much since it makes me really uncomfortable. That is for a later day.I hope I will get to the point were I can control it more.
I thank you for post. It made my day too.
I hope you are doing better.
rsk
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