Posted by muffled on December 8, 2008, at 23:44:02
In reply to Dissociation and me As I see it (triggers-maybe), posted by rskontos on December 8, 2008, at 16:53:31
Wow RSK, GREAT post and very upbeat. Its good to hear your T was able to help you feel better bout stuff.
I used to lose my T right after the session. I gradually was able to hold onto her for longer periods of time, though with much angst.
I often find the first 2-3 days after T session the hardest cuz everything been all stirred up.
Its good he got humour. And amazing that you comfortable w/him. That is HUGE!
I think part of the problem w/diving into dissociation, is that all parts may not be on board about the DX and you don't want a big upset.
SLOW is the order of the day, and I REAL glad your T is being very careful.
It sure does sound like he does get it. Thats great cuz it not so easy to find a good T for DD's.
I dunno bout telling family :-( Guess it might be a releife at some point, but I agree w/T, mebbe not yet.
Thats so hard w/kids :-( I see signs and reactions from mine that make me realize that maybe they have seen more than I realized :-( not that they have a clue what it is...just like your son said...being weird. My D said same thing to me the other night...she said your being weird...your scaring me, kinda half kidding, cuz we were having fun, but only half kidding :-( There's been other things too. I am only slowly realizing them now :-(
Actually there can be many good things bout dissociating. It just needs to be more under , well not so much control, but trust and cooperation btwn parts.
Anyways I have LOTS co-con and it is GREAT. I think you will find you get more of it with time and it is very useful.
I think the number one best thing a babbler once told me, was when she told me that the inner kid I was so struggling and fighting with WAS A KID, and to treat her and relate to her as such. Its was hard to do, as I know I am adult, and others fuss. But our realtionship and trust improved and now I scarecely know she is there. She seemed to mature. We don't fight we have trust and faith in each other. She's a GREAT kid, she is me( though it makes me feel REAL weird to say that...).
So things can improve, it just takes time, and it sounds like you have a good T to start you down this road.
Sometimes it may seem worse B4 it gets better, but then later you realize it was all a part of the learning.
Kids feel REAL intensely and not always logically. Just try and be kind as you can and accept and comfort, and take care of yourself. If there is trouble, phone T. He wants you to heal too.
Oh I want to say so much.
I am exited/scared to know you are going down the road to healing.
(((((((Rsk))))))
Best wishes to you.
I hope you are able to post some as I got lots to learn from you I bet.
Thanks ever so much for sharing. I feel I know you a bit better and thats a wonderful thing :-)
M
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