Posted by B2chica on December 9, 2008, at 8:51:24
In reply to Re: Dissociation and me As I see it (triggers-maybe) » rskontos, posted by muffled on December 8, 2008, at 23:44:02
hi RSK
i haven't posted that much lately.
but i've been following the DD discussion and i'm very thankful that you've shared.
your T sounds Great for 'getting' that you're just not 100% trust yet.but i mostly wanted to tell you that i TOTALLY understand about not telling DH.
i'm in the same boat.
for me it's not so much him knowing, but his reaction to me telling him, but also how it would damage his relationship with my family and it could effect his business??
i just dont want to put him (or myself) through that.
yes ideally i would like to tell him so he understands why i need therapy so badly. and how it's helping me.
but that kind of honesty is just not needed at this point.and my priest once told me that people believe sometimes that you need to share EVERYTHING in a marriage...but he said thats just not true. sometimes things are better left unsaid.
its up to you to decide when, and where, and if.i was so grateful of those words, and i never even revealed everything to that priest...i think from everything else i said and my hospitalizations...i think he just instinctively knew. like, he's heard similar before, kinda made me feel not so alone or outcast about myself.
and i just wanted to pass it along and share that with you.
you are strong and are doing what's BEST for YOU.and kids are just too smart for their own good. They sense things and its much easier to explain to kids i think BECAUSE they are so 'center-oriented' (don't want to say self-centered...sounds mean) but all they care is that mom's ok, and it's not anything THEY did to make you act that way. (if its a negative action)
thank you again for sharing.
and i'm glad you mentioned about the co-consciousness. that's what i am mostly. though i have memory lapses when in session sometimes. depending on what discussion is. sometimes my 'parts' dissociate, or its just hard 'parts work' as my T calls it. Where shes doing thearpy with my part. when it's teen i remember the phsycial energy and outbursts, when i'm littleone i usually remember a picture she puts in my head at the end. and the 'main point' of the discussion.
but i dont remember words or how i acted.thanks again ((((((((RSK))))))))
b2c.
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