Posted by llurpsienoodle on September 29, 2008, at 17:14:06
In reply to Re: I wish my state of mind were more stable, posted by onceupon on September 29, 2008, at 13:34:55
Hey nad,
Sometimes I wonder whether it's US or our environments.You may be more sensitive to the transpersonal vibes around you, whereas others are less permeable. I'm not sure that being sensitive (porous) is such a bad thing, though. Us humans need all kinds of folks.
The best way to get over fears is to realize that they are well-worn ruts. They don't necessarily make sense, so there's no point rationalizing a rut. It just is. Maybe there was a reason for them at one time; maybe they were part of some solution for a problem in your past. Well, you've practiced your fears for a long time, and it will be VERY uncomfortable to ride your bike out of the rut, on the fresh lawn.
Whether you use therapy, coping skills, coffee, meds, friends, love, scented oils, welding, etc., you will still feel uncomfortable. I guess you just have to lean into the pain and trust that you won't expire. My T refers to "surfing the wave of bad feelings". At first they feel like you're going to drown, then you get pulled into them, but then you pop up, and ride them until they disappear into an inconsequential wavelet on the beach. Or something like that.
For what it's worth-- I like your verbosity. I look forward to reading your posts :)
-Ll
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