Posted by Dinah on July 2, 2008, at 21:01:21
In reply to you know what, though, posted by raisinb on July 2, 2008, at 20:52:48
I do love mine. Not because I think he's perfect. I'm all too well aware of his flaws. And not because we have tons in common either. Or have the same values. I love him for exactly who he is. Flaws, warts, and all. I don't want anything from him outside the therapy room. But except for my husband and son, he is dearer to me than anyone - even in the less admirable aspects of who he is.
I once told him that I always told him I loved him well enough to want the best for him, short of termination with me. But that I guess I loved him enough to want the best for him even if it meant termination with me.
I think I've changed my mind back. I may love him and want what's best for him, but only if that doesn't mean abandoning me.
And of course I'll add all the disclaimers. I don't mean sexual love, or romantic love. Sometimes I feel almost maternal towards him, most of the time I feel like a child.
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