Posted by sunnydays on July 2, 2008, at 23:52:38
In reply to Has your T said the L word about you?, posted by lucie lu on July 2, 2008, at 19:14:44
Yes, my T has said, "I love you - not in a sexual way or anything like that - although that doesn't mean you're not pretty or anything, you are - but more in a fatherly or brotherly sort of way."
This was in the same session I had told him I loved him (I didn't say it, but it's clearly in a fatherly way, although he did probe a few times in later sessions to see if there were any sexual feelings that I was just not wanting to admit to). He said he wasn't going to tell me because he was worried him saying that would mess things up between us, but then decided that that wasn't how we had been with each other and that he would be honest and authentic and say that.
He followed it up at the next session with asking how it was to hear him say that, if it was better to hear it or not hear it, etc.
Overall, it was the best possible thing he could have said at that moment. I still treasure that, and I always thought it was cute how he got all worried and tripped up over making sure I understood it wasn't sexual.
sunnydays
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