Posted by raisinb on July 2, 2008, at 20:52:48
In reply to Re: Has your T said the L word about you?, posted by Dinah on July 2, 2008, at 20:47:34
I don't know if I love her, either.
I feel an intense need for her to love me, and I feel dependency. She's critically important to me. But I also feel contempt and rage for her sometimes. And I certainly don't like her all the time, or even most of the time. In fact if I met her in real life I might not even give her a chance, based on her superficial qualities.
When I think "love," I think a warm, intense appreciation for someone, based on a deep knowledge of that person's good qualities and flaws. Sometimes I feel that for my therapist, but overall, I don't know if I know enough about her to say I really love her.
At the same time, our relationship feels deep, complicated, and rich. And she has incredible power to hurt me. And the connection feels very strong.
This is confusing. The therapist-client relationship is so different from others that sometimes it seems it's impossible to use the same language.
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