Posted by rskontos on November 29, 2007, at 10:49:51
In reply to How do...? (small abuse trigger), posted by sunnydays on November 28, 2007, at 18:14:11
Sunnyd, I think you need to tell your mom you appreciate her concern but that this is your T and your relationship and not her concern. Somewhere I remember a statement about not making everyone pay for just one person's mistake. Your mom is making you, your T pay for the bad stuff her T did to her. Which I am not dismissing, it was a terrible thing. But for her to inflict it and the pain on you is too make you a part of her stuff. Does that make sense. I might be wrong just how it strike me when I read your post again for like the third time. And she is causing trouble with your T that you might not have had if she had just kept her thoughts to herself and discussed with her T. I mean as a parent myself I would not put my issues on my daughter. she was concerned but how far should one go. It was an email. Not something she witnessed. I think you need to ask your T for help in setting boundaries with your mom. She needs to respect your privacy as much as she would want you to respect hers. You have enough to deal with and she needs not to cause more for pain for you. As a mom I am sorry she did that to you. (((((((((((Sunnydays))))))))))) here is the mom hug she should have given you not more pain. But all moms can make mistakes. Ask your T to help with that instead of letting it cause problems for you guys.
rk
I have a song for you too. It helps me and my mom issues. It is by Kelly Clarkson, Because of YOU. I think it is about parental abuse. It was written by her. You have to see the words. I think most people think it is about love. But when you see the words you might think I am right.
Take care of yourself.
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