Posted by Muffled on November 28, 2007, at 18:51:51
In reply to How do...? (small abuse trigger), posted by sunnydays on November 28, 2007, at 18:14:11
> How do T's hear all this bad stuff from people day in and day out without it affecting them? I don't understand how dealing with me doesn't infect my T. I mean, I guess it's because I'm not as repulsive as I think I am, but it's so hard to believe that.
*Holy moly, exactly what I said to my T. She says she is careful to protect herself, and that yes, what she does can be very hard, but she takes care of herself and talks to other T's and has her own T. She words it as, comming *alongside*, the clients in their troubles, rather than immersing herself in them.
They also have a different perspective than us too. So I think that makes it different as well.
So my T says I will not contaminate her mind with my stuff. Thats she can take care of herself.
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> A lot of this is coming up because my mother was asking me when I was home for Thanksgiving if my T was abusing me, and why would I be emailing a therapist (I accidentally let her see my email inbox one day). And it's totally her issue because she has a history of being sexually abused by therapists in the past. But talking with my T about it freaked me out that he'd hate me or somehow totally agree with her and decide he really didn't want to see me anymore or something.*I really think your T probably appreciates your honesty. I think it is important to be honest. I somehow doubt he will be affected by your Moms 'stuff', cuz he knows it HER stuff. He will only care in relation to how it affects you. Your T really seems to be in it for the long haul SD.
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> And I called to tell him I miss him just now. But I wish I had said to call me back because I want to talk to him so much. But I can't help thinking it would be bad to do that even though logically I know he'd be fine with it. But then I just called back and asked if he actually would call me if he got the message tonight. I don't know if he'll get the message tonight or not, he sometimes forgets to check his messages, but maybe he will.*Maybe he will. Maybe tomorrow. He's still there. You know that. He has stuck with you very well. He's not going away.
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> I don't know. I just am having a hard time. I hate how my mom's issues seem to have so much power over me sometimes.*yup, stuff like that sucks. But you learning all the time SD, and you will get stronger and more and more able to stand on your own. You'll get there. Just takes some time. This growing business is a lifetime proposition. We grow and change our whole lives!
Life is a journey.
Hope you can relax some SD.
Take care,
Muffled
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