Posted by 10derheart on August 7, 2007, at 16:54:04
In reply to Re: I thought it was just a bad dream » slugdoo, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on August 7, 2007, at 12:13:40
Llupsie,
I think this is a brilliant theory, and so well-explained. You might really have something here. I especially liked this:
>>He's taken it a step further though, and is trying to turn his heart off at the end of each day at the office, thinking that this will be good for his health in the long run.<<
I'm so glad you wrote this post.
SD,
I've wanted to post but don't know what to say. I guess others have said most of the parts of what I'm thinking. Your first post made me feel ill reading it, I mean, from the sheer emotion conveyed as to how his words cut you :-( It felt like I was there and it was pretty bad. I think I would have not even been able to walk out of there unassisted. You are really more resiliant than you give yourself credit for, including in the face of this trusted, loved (yes, I think so) T. suddenly wounding you in such a blunt and unexpected way.
You are here. You posted. You read. You slept. You told DH about it. You are putting one foot in front of the other.
I'm so sorry. I won't defend him, but give some thought to Llurpsie's words. Sounds so very plausible to me. For an athletic, vibrant (sounds like from all you've posted here) reasonably healthy guy, he may be really feeling scared and out of control right now. That should NOT allow for such hurtful, and IMO, incorrect statements to you - NO WAY - but an explanation of his own humanity getting the better of his T-side, well, maybe it at least makes it seem less nasty and awful. He should have reserved that impulsive vulnerable stuff for his wife, but he messed up.
Don't know what else to say right now. I pray he'll rethink what happened and realize what he did and try to make it right, if you even want to hear it. (((SD)))
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