Posted by fairywings on February 15, 2006, at 20:05:21
In reply to I need some help -- trigger, posted by Daisym on February 15, 2006, at 17:57:41
You did good daisy. Crying buckets is understandable. All the feelings come tumbling back, and your guts just kind of spill out all over the place. It's hard to confront those things.
My mom guilted me into stuff all the time, and I'd back down to her, then it was my mother in law. Just now I'm learning to say "you need to back off", or something that conveys that feeling when she crosses the line. Maybe just being prepared with some simple statments that will kind of throw him off balance will help you feel strong enough to stand up for yourself.
It's taken me years, it's horribly difficult. I still have a lot of trouble. I hope you find some things that help you stay in that place your T is helping you establish.
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