Posted by poet on February 15, 2006, at 19:12:54
In reply to I need some help -- trigger, posted by Daisym on February 15, 2006, at 17:57:41
Hi Daisy,
You wrote: *I don't have to consent to oral sex because he likes it. I don't have to give up my own space (my office at home) because he thinks I should be watching TV with him. I don't have to share what I'm talking about in therapy or in my journal, even if he thinks I'm keeping secrets. And I don't have to let him hurt me, even if the hurts are unintentional.
My husband doesn't know about CSA, so he thinks my lack of desire to have any kind of sex is AD side effects. I wish I could be more helpful with that one as I feel guilty about deceiving him. Though I don't want him to know, either.
I tell my husband that I need private time. He understands that if I'm babbling or emailing that I need this time alone. I'll spend time watching TV or something with him, but there are things that I need to keep private. It's not that I don't trust him or love him, it's that it helps me deal with things he doesn't know about.
I hope that helps. If I think of anything else, I'll post it.
Safe cyber hugs.
Poet
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