Posted by cricket on July 20, 2005, at 7:03:44
In reply to Re: Parts coming out in therapy, posted by kerria on July 19, 2005, at 22:42:25
Hi Kerria,
So it sounds like it went a bit better at therapy. He reminded you of the kind things he's said. Try and remember them if you can. I know it's hard.
I undertand not wanting to have parts. For the longest time I was so ashamed of myself for being like this. I felt like a freak that someone should parade up and down the street. I used to cry and beg a god that I never believed in - just five minutes with a normal mind, can't I just see what it's like for just a tiny bit.
But I don't now. If my therapist has ever accomplished anything it is this: I feel okay having parts.
He said over and over again, "Most people have the voices of the people around them in their heads, you grew up in such psychotic chaos that you knew better than to let that happen. So you have your own family in your head. They're your family. I would never want to take them away."
And he said, "A unitary linear consciousness is a fiction. That's the problem with neurotics. We all have parts. Yours are just personified."
Then it was just the cumulative hours of talking about them, to them. Just as I imagine people without parts talk about their real families.
So now it's not so scary or shameful anymore. My T does say that eventually he'd like me to get to the point of seeing them just as different aspects of myself but that's a long term distant goal and since I am probably quitting therapy I don't think I'll get there.
I do think communication is a good first step and I like the idea your T had - just talk about everyday things. Do any of your parts have favorite foods or favorite things to do? Favorite colors?
Mostly I think you start with:
It's okay to be like this. I am like this for a good reason. There are lots of other people like this. For example, Cricket is like this.I'm glad that your T let you get back together before you had to leave. It does seem like he is trying.
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