Posted by Elle2021 on February 28, 2004, at 22:36:51
In reply to Re: The rest... » Elle2021, posted by crushedout on February 28, 2004, at 9:33:24
>that the SI-ing will subside?
> i kind of doubt it. but maybe. she's actually confirmed this several times, but she was very clear and firm about it on thursday, the day she was mad at me for SI'ing. maybe that's why she was doing that. i dunno. it hurt a lot. but i dissociated and then i got depressed.
So you think you SI-ed because of her telling you nothing can happen between you two? About how long have you been experiencing this transference? I know it goes back at least a couple of months because I remember posts from then. One thing I have noticed on this board: The people here to talk about their romantic transference seem to go through some steps. One, really wanting to be with their doctor, two, having their doctor confirm nothing can happen, three, continuing to fantasize, and then four, eventually it passes. I didn't experience any kind of erotic transference for my pdoc, but for a while I wanted to be his daughter and have him be my father. I never discussed it with him, but I can tell you that the desire diminished. I still like him and think he is a great guy, but I just don't see him that way anymore. I hope this gives you some kind of reassurance that "this to shall pass." ((((Crushed))))
Elle
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