Posted by sunny10 on April 1, 2005, at 10:51:41
In reply to Something terrible, posted by Susan47 on March 31, 2005, at 18:37:24
you have not made him feel fear. He is bound by ethical standards that dictate that he cannot tell you what he thinks of you. He cannot tell you that he trusts you; he cannot tell you that he doesn't fear you; and his marriage binds him against saying anything at all to you about the fact that you are a strong female and he is male.
He can never tell you that you are beautiful. He can never tell you that you aren't scary. He cannot say a h*ll of a lot of things. But him not being able to talk to you this way does not dictate what kind of person you are, sweetie.
You are beautiful, and kind, and sexy, and vibrant, and in no way at all are you scary unless it is in a "I'm unavailable and she is so attractive that I do not trust myself with her" kind of scary. I think your passionate personality must be really hard to stay away from- a frightening thought to anyone who is emotionally and legally unavailable. You are a flame- a lot of people are moths...the truly secure people enjoy the energy, sight, and vibrancy of you without being afraid. People with inner power don't fear the inner power of others- simple as that. There is a fine line between ethics and morality. As a caring therapist, he should have told you exactly why he was terminating with you, as a weak professional, he hid behind his "rules" and said nothing.
You need to see that he ended your contact with him because of HIS issues- not yours!
I'm glad you wrote it all out like you said you would... I hope it brought a cathartic peace to pound your fingers on the keyboard and put it all out here.
Big mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh to you!!
-sunny10
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