Posted by antigua on July 18, 2004, at 0:14:48
In reply to Re: Familiar vs the unknown Anti and » beatrix34, posted by 2ndXround on July 17, 2004, at 4:15:52
I think you can lessen or reduce the amount of support so that she learns to start taking responsibility for her behavior. I would also suggest letting her know your feelings, if you can keep them civil, matter of fact and very calm. You could tell her that you're trying to help her by letting her take responsibility for some specific things, so she doesn't feel like you've totally abandoned her. After you have warned her, maybe the next time she calls for help you could deny her; the time after that you could help her, and so on.
I don't know, that may sound goofy, but you want to help her to grow w/o hurting her.
I'm so sorry things are so tough for you right now.
antigua
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