Posted by beatrix34 on July 11, 2004, at 21:30:53
In reply to Familiar vs the unknown, posted by antigua on July 11, 2004, at 20:45:26
Yeah fear of the unknown. That's a big one and where faith comes into play. Just the faith that everything will work out in the long run. I just made a huge change, quit my career, got married, moved to a new country. It took me 5 years of recovery to feel that I could even attempt this. It is not easy, that;s for sure. I really think that I needed to get me back into decent mental health before I even thought about trying to change things.
It is hard to do, but it is possible. Being clean is definitely the starting point in getting both the courage and faith to enable us to make these major life changes. It is suggested that there are no major changes made in the first year of recovery but I do believe that everyone needs to be in a safe place.
I spent a lot of time thinking about how you must be feeling about your daughter and the abortion. It made me sad to think that this was something that you and she were going through. I had an abortion when I was 22 and I know that it haunted me for a long while, the only saving grace that I had was that I knew that I was incapable of bringing another human into the crazy existance that I was living. I still live with the memories and the shame comes back to pay me visit. I was earlier on, only 8 weeks, and that seemed to make it a bit easier on me mentally. I can't imagine what you guys must be going through with her ebing so far along in her pregnancy. Try to remember that this is not your fault in any way. That all you can do is provide support if your daughter chooses to ask you for it. It must be something that is hard for you. This is one of those things that need to be out in the open and not stuffed away in your brain, So thank you for sharing that and don't feel bad talking about anything, we aren't here to judge you at all.
I hope your weekend was ok.
Bea
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