Posted by PhoenixGirl on January 27, 2004, at 19:20:36
I have had a problem with jealous women in general. At work, you can't just decide to not be around them, because you have to go to work. So, I need help in managing this.
Women are generally insecure about their looks and resentful of other women who have something they don't. I am certainly not saying this in arrogance, it's simply the truth - other women are jealous of me because I'm tall, have a good figure, and am considered very pretty. People tell me I should be a model (I am too depressed for that and the modeling world is by nature really shallow, so I don't want to be in it. I've always been a depressed "outsider" and I can't imagine being one of the "in" crowd).
Anyway, there is a hate-at-first-sight phenomenon that happens, especially among black women. I live in Atlanta, and there is a black culture here that resents whites. Add that to the female jealousy, and it gets ugly.
I have rarely seen bad attitudes toward me expressed by men, especially white men. My boss is a black woman though, which is not cool. She is such a bitch, ugh. She treats the black employees much better than the whites. Christ, a workplace full of gay white men would be ideal - no unwanted sexual advances from straight men or lesbians, and no resentful ugliness from straight women or blacks of either gender.
I've been kind to everyone of at work from the start (regardless of gender or race), and I am very shy, quiet, and socially anxious. I think that because of this, the vipers make bolder affronts against me because they can.
Any thoughts or suggestions on how to deal with this problem at work? I don't think there is a way to keep them from resenting me because the resentment is based on what their eyes see. I don't want my career to be hindered by these kinds of people, so I need to learn how to handle it now.
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