Posted by shar on January 31, 2004, at 1:46:23
In reply to One important thing, posted by PhoenixGirl on January 30, 2004, at 22:58:41
First, let me say, thanks Gabbix, for saying I've made sense... And...
> The resentful women see the way I look AND how I keep to myself...and they assume it must be because I think I'm better than they are.
[an assumption on your part?]> I've noticed this perception a lot.
[a predispostion on your part?]>There is the assumption that attractive women think they're better than other women, so if an attractive woman doesn't mingle much, that's proof that she's stuck-up.
........Could that be true? That if an 'attractive woman' thinks she is better than other women she may not deign to interact with them? Or, is that simply another assumption/predisposition on the 'attractive woman's' part?
>You know, there are a number of people at work who keep to themselves, and no one thinks that they're snotty. For example, there's a feeble old man in the cubicle next to me who almost never socializes with others, and is very quiet. Many people think that it's endearing - what a sweet gentle man! They sure don't think that he is snotty about how pretty he is...
...........a 'feeble old man' hardly has anything to offer to other men (which seems to be the topic/threatening factor at hand) and is definitely not as 'pretty' as this nubile female? And not a 'threat' to all the other 'ordinary' women (non-nubile?) that inhabit other cubicles?
...........Gee, I find myself overwhelmed by the fact that "beauty" (as in Aphrodite) is such an issue in the workplace. There is so much more to women than physical beauty it is sad to see it still a major defining characteristic. I can't help but wonder if there isn't more to the story, and, maybe, a very limited view of women in general.
..........Gee, again, I've encountered so many 'beautiful' women who far surpassed their physical characteristics to achieve greater things that 'beauty' doesn't matter because they have so much more to offer. It may just be that 'ugly' women shaped our futures, and it is to them we owe gratitude.
But, then, who am I to say what 'matters'?
Yours,
Shar
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