Posted by PhoenixGirl on January 29, 2004, at 16:17:01
In reply to Re: Jealous women at work - what to do about them? » PhoenixGirl, posted by Angielala on January 29, 2004, at 12:09:24
Thanks for all the interesting feedback. I totally agree that women fighting each other is hurting our progress. If your man is steal-able, you should let him be stolen and find a man who is worthy of you. That bears repeating, and I want to shout it from the mountain top: IF YOUR MAN IS STEAL-ABLE, LET HIM BE STOLEN AND FIND A MAN WHO IS WORTHY OF YOU! A man of honor and character, a man who really loves you, will not leave you. Why should you settle for less.
Back to the jealous other women. Someone asked if I'm sure that jealousy really is the problem. Yes I'm sure, because
1. The hate comes only from other women, not men.
2. They will make insulting comments about my appearance. To try to tear down the asset of the better-looking woman.
3. Rumors spread about me supposedly thinking I'm better than others because of my appearance. That is incredibly untrue, and it says something about what's going on in their minds, because it is an invention of their minds.
4. I get these hate stares from women I don't even know. The only thing a stranger knows about you is how you look, because have never spoken to you. Their animosity is about what their eyes see...That is all the info they have about you.
It's also the *way* they look at me. They'll give me the "up and down", and then this angry look comes on their face.
So far, the best way I can think of to minimize the imact of jealous women is to have confidence in yourself and be yourself. Respect for yourself generally makes other people respect you too.
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