Posted by Karen_kay on December 21, 2003, at 20:38:33
In reply to what must you think of all of this?, posted by Jai Narayan on December 21, 2003, at 19:39:34
(((Jai)))
((Tabitha)))
And just for fun and because I hope she's reading....
(((Dinah)))Seems everyone's now involved in some sort of miscommunication??? Hopefully I won't get involved. I feel like when I try to support someone, someone else becomes offended and then I get involved.. So, it happems even with the best intentions.. But, the funny thing is it only happens on the board.. It doesn't seem to happen on the others.. Figure that one out.. I can't.. Maybe I can... Anyhooo....
Tabitha......Sorry that a post expressing frustration and looking for support had to move towards sourness.. I'm sure that the stress of the season has a lot to do with it.. I *TRULY AND SINCERELY* have not noticed the slightest bit of inconsistencies in your recent posts. If others have, then that is their option and opinion. I have not. It happens that people sometimes are misunderstood. It is commmon, very common. But, it will pass. And, as you can see, there are PLENTY of people here to support you, even if they do think that maybe you are being inconstistent. So, don't let it get you down too much.
Now, for ((Jai))
Girlie..... I'm sorry you are having conficts (of sorts) again... But, you can only have conficts if you allow them to happen... Just, don't let it get to you...Avoid the situation if you can. If that helps. If you feel that it isn't helping you, rather hindering you, then it is best to step aside for a while and evaluate yourself until you can come back with an open mind and clear(er) thoughts. [I don't mean step aside from the board.. Just try to seperate yourself from the situation. Does this make sense?] Or, don't respond. It may only feed a fire that doesn't need more oxygen. There are numerous people here who will support you (like me :) If you feel that someone isn't being supoprtive right now, take some time to thing about what you need and ask for it. If that person isn't willing to give it at that time then move on. But, I also wonder why it is that you and Larry seem to be "getting into it." (Stay with me here, ok?) Is it becasue he is telling you exactly how he feels. I know he doesn't always seem to come across as "sugary sweet" but he has firm boundaries and wants you to respect them. And it seems that the slightest infringement upon those boundaries puts up a red flag. Just something to consider....
I am (and will continue to be) here to support you. If you need support from me, just ask. Actually, you don't have to ask. I think I can tell if you need it. And it sounds like you need it now hun. You're doing a great job. Stick around. I like you :) "Because you're good enough, you're smart enough, and doggone (is this spelled right?) it, people like you.."Larry...
I hope I'm not out of line by saying that. I'm really not trying to put my foot in my mouth, which I do quite often. Feel free to tell me if I have, and I'm sure you will :) I'm just trying to help Jai get a handle on a situation which is causing her some undue stress in her life. So, if I've written something out of place, don't spare my feelings (they don't get hurt too easily) and let me know. I'm just trying to do my part to support her, and possibly help her gain some perspective on this situation.
I hope things work out on everyone's behalf... Including my own. There, now I feel like I may need some support. Maybe there is some miscommunication going on from my part too...
[HELP!!]
Karen
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