Posted by tabitha on December 20, 2003, at 21:06:09
In reply to Re: Rampant miscommunication? » Larry Hoover, posted by tealady on December 20, 2003, at 1:18:37
> I don't take as any rejection of hurtful thing to say where you need to put on a protective suit?
Tell you what.. if you're OK with being told you give mixed messages and have mutually incompatible thought clusters coming from you.. how about I just give Larry's post to you as a gift? I find it hurtful, coming after some history of offering sincere statements and having them critiqued as being secretly insincere.
The protective suit is an image my therapist came up with to help me avoid taking others' criticisms to heart, given that what they see is mixed with their own projections. It's up to me to name what's true for me, and reject the rest. For me, communication breaks down when someone rejects my sincere statements of my own feelings and motivations. Beyond that, I'm just wasting energy fighting off someone's negative perception that doesn't fit. I have enough self-criticism. It's time for some self-protection.
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