Posted by tealady on December 20, 2003, at 1:18:37
In reply to Re: Rampant miscommunication? » tabitha, posted by Larry Hoover on December 18, 2003, at 8:46:51
Hi Tabitha,
First let me wish you a merry Xmas, happy and healthy 2004 and all that.
Just reading this thread..bit late getting there from Oz (unless I'm awake in the middle of the night).I hope you work it out soon, but please don't stop communicating. I appreciate the help you have given me before, and I'm sure many others do too.
The internet and emails must be one of the most difficult communication mediums , especially if one is not gifted in written expression. Phone is much easier.
Face to face we rely so much more on other means of communications..not so much the actual words..and the same words can mean sooo many different things depending on the way they are said..the tone, facial/body expressions etc..which just cannot be put into words effectively.
Still the internet does allow some communication and this is way better than none...believe meI haven't been following what had been happening , but just from this thread ..it really did come across to me that you thought you thought you were having a problem communicating
"> > I'm in a weird state. It seems like all my interactions with people are creating miscommunication. A lot of it is text and email like here which I know is notorious for miscommunication, but it's happening in my face to face and phonecalls too. It seems like I can't say anything or hear anything without a misunderstanding happening. My mind is going nuts trying to figure it out-- am I suddenly not seeing things clearly? Is everyone hypersensitive this time of year? It feels like I'm in a strange dream where everything is just a bit skewed."
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and then Lar said ..>
> Tab, I've been confused in conversations with you myself, and I worked hard to figure out why. The best I can figure is that I get mixed messages, like there are mutually incompatible clusters of thoughts coming from you. It could be that the inferences I draw from what you're saying are not agreeing with the literal text.
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> I thought maybe it was me. But if others are reporting this, then I think that perhaps my "mixed message" theory may be valid.
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> Lar
which again , to me, just meant:
well I thought it was just me..but if you, yourself, personally, are finding it with others, and thinking you are having a problem yourself, ..then perhaps the fault is not ALL me after allI don't take as any rejection of hurtful thing to say where you need to put on a protective suit?
Of course, I really just came in on the end of this ... so this is just my interpretation based on what I see written here and how Lar comes across himself on the forum too.>
>"No, nobody else is saying that.
>If you're talking about what I think, what >happened there was you wouldn't take me at my >word. My message wasn't mixed-- it was rejected. >If you won't believe a sincere statement, then ?>there's nothing I can do to reach you.
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>I'm going to put on my teflon suit now and let >your analysis of my faulty thought process roll >off me like water.
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>Go in peace, Larry. "
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I sure hope this helps a bit and I hope you work it out and feel great again soon ...but make sure you keep communicating, OK?Jan
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