Posted by Jai Narayan on December 22, 2003, at 8:09:57
In reply to Re: what must you think of all of this?Tabitha » Jai Narayan, posted by Karen_kay on December 21, 2003, at 20:38:33
> (((Jai)))
> ((Tabitha)))
> And just for fun and because I hope she's reading....
> (((Dinah)))
>
These ((())) are so effective. I always get jarred when I see them.
> Now, for ((Jai))
> Girlie.....
So I'm a Girlie....
> If you feel that it isn't helping you, rather hindering you, then it is best to step aside for a while [I don't mean step aside from the board.. Just try to seperate yourself from the situation. Does this make sense?] Or, don't respond. I know he doesn't always seem to come across as "sugary sweet" but he has firm boundaries and wants you to respect them.
<The way if appears to me is he can give advice but he but he can't take it. It's a one way interaction. He can be blunt but I have to be very careful and sweet. I can't be blunt as well. I gave him advice when he was not asking for it. Just like he did for Tabitha. It's okay for him and not for me?> I hope I'm not out of line by saying that. I'm really not trying to put my foot in my mouth, which I do quite often. Feel free to tell me if I have, and I'm sure you will :) I'm just trying to help Jai get a handle on a situation which is causing her some undue stress in her life. So, if I've written something out of place, don't spare my feelings (they don't get hurt too easily) and let me know. I'm just trying to do my part to support her, and possibly help her gain some perspective on this situation.
< We all know both Tabitha and Larry are very good people. We all like them. I will bow out and only support...as I am sure that will not be met with anger from Larry. I am learning how to communciate on this board too. It's fun, exciting and sometimes painful.
Thank you Karen for your insight and kindness.
poster:Jai Narayan
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URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20031217/msgs/292313.html