Posted by Karen_kay on December 22, 2003, at 9:29:30
In reply to Re: what must you think of all of this?Tabitha, posted by Jai Narayan on December 22, 2003, at 8:09:57
(((Jai)))
> These ((())) are so effective. I always get jarred when I see them.
<<Good! I'm glad you appreciate them! Here's another one (Jai)
> > Girlie.....
> So I'm a Girlie....
<<<[Foot in mouth] Is itpossible you're not a girlie? CRAP! Well, in the future, I'll try to be better about not making assumptions. I suppose I assume that since I'm a woman, maybe I'm talking to a woman. I thought you'd referred to yourself as a woman. Maybe not. I can't breath now, my foot is slowly moving further down my throat.... I'M SORRY :(
> <The way if appears to me is he can give advice but he but he can't take it. It's a one way interaction. He can be blunt but I have to be very careful and sweet. I can't be blunt as well. I gave him advice when he was not asking for it. Just like he did for Tabitha. It's okay for him and not for me?<<<Hmmm... I'm tempted to check the civility codes here, but alas, I'm lazy. I guess I'll be warned if I potentially offend, but I don't think I'm going to write anything offensive (at least that is not my objective). I have little interaction with Larry. He appears to be extremely intelligent, though. I think (personally) what is lacking in his posts is emotion. Whereas you seem to exude emotion. So, when posting, he seems to be hypercritical of each word and its literal meaning. When Tabitha posted, possibly looking for support, he gave her his honest answer. Maybe it wasn't extremely helpful to her at the time. But it was his honest answer. But, is wasn't extremely supportive either. So, if you are looking for an honest answer, ask Larry. If you are looking for support, ask someone else, like Jai . (Or follow your suggestion and write it out... "I'm looking for support please... Not an indepth look at how others view me or a list of my own character flaws..) That's the way I tend to look at it.
Each person here tends to have a different role and personality. Take advantage of it. I'm sure it may just be the season, or the stress of the season. And it seems that everyone is miscommunicating.
> < We all know both Tabitha and Larry are very good people. We all like them. I will bow out and only support...as I am sure that will not be met with anger from Larry. I am learning how to communciate on this board too. It's fun, exciting and sometimes painful.<<<I agree with that, they are both very good people. Why do you think that you must only support? Your view on things is just as valid as others. Just because somone doesn't agree, doesn't make it wrong. How many people on this board are you having conflicts with? Take some time to think about the situation. It really isn't a big deal. Look back at some of the old posts, where you had a past conflict. Look at how many others supported you. You still have a large network of supporters. It is all about learning. That's the most important thing!
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> Thank you Karen for your insight and kindness.<<You are very welcome :)
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