Posted by jay on December 16, 2002, at 1:26:03
In reply to Re: Bohemian-Wrong question grasshopper, posted by Phil on December 15, 2002, at 13:51:44
> Heard an AA speaker once that said when he got sober, he would always lay around in bed. His friends would come by and he would moan about how lonesome he was. His friends said no shit, you're lonely cause you're laying in bed. I guess you had to be there.
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> I think when you quit asking for love that you deserve cause you are so lonely and start asking how can I show more love to everyone I meet. If that's you're focus, you won't be so horny.
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> *wank *Texan for wink.Umm..well first...got nuttin' to do with me being 'horny'..of course sexual drive is a component of what becomes love.
Second, I am out of the box...and into the fire. I meet many people daily...and have a healthy social life. In fact, being a social worker, I am very in touch with my interpersonal skills. I've discovered easily how to be lonely in crowds, no matter how many friends..etc. That's one area I survived...because I can talk circles and charm the pants off most people.
But looking for *real* love...I think that takes guts and is a true adventure. I could get into some type of cheap sexual gratification easy, and I could settle for some meaningless relationship with somebody I have very little ability to communicate on much deeper level with. But...no..and no. Period. Life is too short for that (for me anyways..and yes I would be 'shorting' myself), and I have always come across my best relationships when I take my time and strive to a higher plain. As the great French saying goes.."Ça vaut la peine.".."It's worth the pain."
Certainly no easy..no way...no simple why...but in the midst of all the existenial angst, some of the most beautiful relationships are formed.
Anyhow...thanks...there are tons of important questions we should al be asking..in a relationship or not.
Peace,
Jay
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