Posted by antigua on May 13, 2006, at 13:20:55
In reply to Difficult to construe?, posted by Declan on May 13, 2006, at 4:37:02
O.k., this is really more than I am EVER willing to disclose. I've been married a long time and while I agree that sex in the beginning is about finding each other and pleasing each other, and having a whole lot of fun, there does come a time when it takes a turn, or at least it did for me. After children is so very difficult, as I've already said, because my focus was different. But a much more fulfilling type of sex has taken over in our later years. I'm sure it's me--that I'm not so hung up on it, or avoid it all the time (I still avoid it sometimes!), but it's just that it brings so much to the relationship in ways that you men who have given up on it don't realize. It's worth it to find out WHY she feels this way. I will admit that part of my reticence was about my own body and not knowing what would bring it pleasure (cringe with embarrassment), and I've had to work at it.
I saw some health quiz my husband had filled out in a mag and he gave our sex life better marks than I would have--but the fact that I could help make that come true for him was huge for me.
Don't get me wrong. My husband is just a regular guy, but he's a good man and if we want to maintain our relationship, sex has to be a part of it. We have never been unfaithful to one another, but I do know (or fear as the case may be) that if he did stray, it would be because of sex.
I can't believe I wrote all of this. But please don't give up!
antigua
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