Posted by jonquiljo on May 13, 2006, at 14:32:37
In reply to Re: Difficult to construe?, posted by antigua on May 13, 2006, at 13:20:55
> but I do know (or fear as the case may be) that if he did stray, it would be because of sex.
Yes, thats the dilemma. It can work the other way in that once you know he will NOT stray - sex becomes no longer necessary to keep him in tow.The problem is that the "other" partner isn't about to say "look, if I don't get what I want - I'll go somewhere else!" Most people are more civil than that. So you say, "Please, can we have a bit more of a sex life". The partner says yes of course- but since they know you aren't going to wander, things stay the way they are. Begging is undignified.
Of course there are usuailly a myriad of "other" problems to contend with so sex remains in the back room.
Oh well, life could be worse. I certainly could never be content with myself if I was unfaithful - so I guess that determines how I will continue.
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