Posted by cricket on April 18, 2006, at 8:49:56
In reply to Re: Boundaries with Mothers » cricket, posted by special_k on April 17, 2006, at 0:41:33
I have to do some more thinking about this.
Actually I think that it has something to do with something that Special K said over in admin about politics.
About enlarging boundaries.
My country, my ideology, my political party.
For better or worse, I don't enlarge my boundaries in this way very often.
H*ll I don't even think in terms of MY husband.
So what does that have to do with sentiment vs. feeling?
I guess I think that people who tend to think more in terms of mine vs. not mine tend to have a stronger, more fixed sense of 'ME' And therefore they are more likely to feel hurt to take offense at more things because more things seem to belong to the way they define themselves.
I also think Damos is right in that it all probably originates in the gestalt of childhood and the attempt to define self.
I guess I am not being very clear. I will have to think some more.
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