Posted by special_k on April 10, 2006, at 23:01:29
In reply to Re: Boundaries with Mothers » special_k, posted by cricket on April 10, 2006, at 15:26:32
> > You know how sometimes you worry about being heartless / having no feelings... Is part of that about your hating your mother?
> Yes, I think you are onto something. Not clear yet. But I think they are related.
is it maybe that you are supposed to love your mother and so if you were capable of love you would surely have loved your mother and so if you don't love your mother then maybe you aren't capable of loving anybody?
or is there more to it...
dunno...
i wonder if you go numb sometimes because things would feel too painful otherwise
(like with your relationship with your partner. things are amicable enough but then you can't afford to invest more emotionally or you would only feel hurt over his affairs and stuff so you just go numb and don't let it worry you. because otherwise... just more hurts in the long run).
and if you really cared what your mother thought of you...
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