Posted by AdaGrace on August 23, 2005, at 16:39:58
In reply to » AdaGrace » ...Sorry...?, posted by 64bowtie on August 23, 2005, at 3:06:11
If you don't point out the hurt. Or don't allow it to hurt you, how do you stop it from happening in the future?
I feel I am at the crossroads of either totally emotionally closing up or boiling over the pot on the stove because my emotions cannot be contained.
I think what you are saying, and correct me if I am wrong, but I think you are saying that to not tollerate the bad behavior I would need to dissassociate myself from the person exibiting the bad behavior... Is that right???
Double hockey sticks, I don't know. If I act the doormat, I am asking to be stepped on. If I forgive the stepper, I am inviting the behavior to return, and if I disclose my displeasure or hurt feelings, I have in essence created the power for them to return. So what the heck do I do? Kick his a$$ out? I am not to give forgiveness in hopes that by letting him know I am hurt, and yet forgiving him, am I not trying to compromise and hope he is in return????????
Jesus, I have no clue.
All I know is it all comes back around full circle. And seems to continue on forever.
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