Posted by ClearSkies on August 22, 2005, at 12:28:46
In reply to Re: Hi AdaGrace » Susan47, posted by AdaGrace on August 22, 2005, at 8:40:40
My self esteem took its tumble after my first marriage ended after 18 years. Seems like I held it all together for so long and when I finally hurled myself away from it, I became seriously unglued.
I could list the issues I have with my self esteem, but I think I've shared them them with you, AdaGrace, in the past. Now I am at the point where, yes - I really do have to count the stupid little piddly stuff I manage to achieve in a day and try to give myself credit for it in my attempt to build my esteem.I don't think I ever had it in the first place. I certainly never had any sense of it from my parents. I was encouraged by my teachers at school, but when that isn't supported at home, the validation crumbles there too.
So I am doing this for the first time, realistically. I have to do this for myself because it was never done for me as an infant or a child; and I don't believe I will achieve a true recovery until I have accomplished it.It's not stupid, or a product of our society. It's necessary for us to become entire, whole human beings. I believe part of that process is leaving behind what tears us down; whether it's a demeaning job or an unsupportive or abusive partner. Otherwise it's a slow and very painful way to starve ourselves.
ClearSkies
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