Posted by Declan on August 9, 2005, at 1:23:48
In reply to Re: Wife wants a divorce » BornAgainLover, posted by Tamar on August 5, 2005, at 16:41:56
Yeah it can be hard for homosexual men who love their wives and children, especially in the presence of unsympathetic religious and cultural factors. If I were you (and I am in your position to a considerable extent) I wouldn't waste time apologising for things that were not my choice and that I could not change.
And the gay world can be like a club, there's pressure everywhere, you've got to come out and all the rest.
(Naturally I can't help you and I can't help myself, but my starting position is kinda like Groucho Marx's thing....'I wouldn't want to be a member of any club that would have me.')
I think if I loved my wife in your situation I would accept her desire for divorce and make it easy for her. Perhaps my respect would be limited.
But it's a complicated world, and when we grew up, and now too for all I know, self-acceptance was down at the bottom of the pile, even lower down than self-knowledge.
Declan
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