Posted by Lorne on August 5, 2005, at 14:25:33
In reply to Wife wants a divorce, posted by BornAgainLover on August 5, 2005, at 4:24:56
Dear Born Again,
I think you might have to accept the fact that your marriage is over.
The foundation of a marriage is trust, and I think you can see you have given your wife reason not to trust you. You have said you are not the man she thought you were, you went back on your word about pornography, you have engaged in extra-martial sexual activity, and your children are witness to your actions.
The only positive suggestion I can make to you is to tell her how you feel about her, and tell her if she still wants you, you still want her. Then you are going to have to leave it in her hands. If she says yes, you have a lot of work to do. If she says no, then its no.
You might also have to accept that you are not hetrosexual. You might be able to distort yourself into being a "good husband", but that might just be continuing the lie that got you into this mess. Being homosexual isn't the end of the world. I've met religious and moral homosexuals, and homosexuals who are good fathers. They just make very poor hetrosexual is all.
Lorne
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