Posted by B2chica on July 19, 2005, at 9:03:09 [reposted on July 22, 2005, at 0:57:51 | original URL]
In reply to Re: husbands and sex **possible trigger**, posted by Miss Honeychurch on July 19, 2005, at 7:23:52
jazzed, thank you for sharing. actually who i pictured was one of my brothers. later on in highschool (like you) i was raped but my hubby doesn't know about my attacker...well, once when we first met and both drunk i told him i thought i'd been raped. he's never talked about it since he's made really unsettling comments through the years that makes me think he didn't remember otherwise he never would say those things...you know like when we're watching tv and a character gets raped he'll sometimes 'jokingly'(???) say she asked for it.
to me that's SOOOO Wrong and SOOOO insensitive. so that's why i think he doesn't remember.
if he knew, all he'd care about was 'who was it'. i will NEVER TELL.
Not tried EMDR, maybe someday.Damos, thank you SO much for replying. it's nice to hear a man's perspective. i might take a look at that book.
again...thank you sweet Damos.hey ak. unfortunatelly i'm just not in any mood for sex what so ever. not yet. i know i will because before i started getting all these flashbacks we had a very healthy sex life. i know we'll get there again, i just dont' know when.
Ms Honey.
wow, that is very interesting. i never thought of it that way. and that sounds like exactly what's happening.
thanks for the insight.
and i don't necessesarily need a solution, understanding is great too.thanks.
b2c.
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