Posted by Miss Honeychurch on July 19, 2005, at 7:23:52 [reposted on July 22, 2005, at 0:57:51 | original URL]
In reply to husbands and sex **possible trigger**, posted by B2chica on July 18, 2005, at 9:25:33
Chica,
I have always read that men regard sex as intimate communication, whereas women view sex as something to do as a RESULT of meaningful communication (ie talking, cuddling, etc.). So really, it's a quandry. I think it's possible that the more you withhold sex, the less "loved" your husband feels, and the more he withholds the things you need (kisses, hugs etc,), the less loved you feel. So therefore, since you're not receiving the type of intimacy you need, sex will not be an option for you. And since he is not receiving the type of intimacy he needs, affection will not be an option for him. This is a hard cycle to break. Both of you are starved for what you need.
Wish I could give you a great solution to this problem. (((Chica))).
poster:Miss Honeychurch
thread:531367
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