Posted by vwoolf on July 17, 2005, at 11:16:05 [reposted on July 22, 2005, at 0:51:24 | original URL]
In reply to My husband keeps losing control :-(, posted by pinkeye on July 16, 2005, at 17:12:05
Gosh Pinkeye, I really understand where you are at the moment. My husband also loses control and has hit me on several occasions. Yet I can't leave the relationship. People online advised me to get out of the marriage, to call the police. But it is so hard to even imagine that from inside this kind of situation. It is so complex that the simple solutions that people propose seem not to take into account the many layers of self hatred, dependency, love, mothering etc that make up these relationships. If it can be of any help to you, I managed to persuade my husband to come to couples' therapy after the last incident. Since then he has been much more controlled, although I don't know how long it will last.
Thinking of you.
vwoolf
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