Posted by ghost on July 16, 2005, at 17:43:47 [reposted on July 22, 2005, at 0:51:23 | original URL]
In reply to Re: My husband keeps losing control :-( » pinkeye, posted by pinkeye on July 16, 2005, at 17:14:22
i know i don't know you that well, but please hear me out.
NOTHING you do is stupid, and NOTHING on EARTH you could possibly do deserves violence. NOTHING. You need to get help. And quickly. it doesn't sound like he's hurt you badly yet, but violence only gets worse. he could put you in the hospital. or worse. YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT. NO ONE deserves to be hit.
your relationship SHOULD end in divorce, and it's nothing to be ashamed of. your husband can't keep it together and you need to get out of that situation. you need to look out for you.
he can talk all he wants about not hitting you again but unless/until he gets into a help program, it'll never stop. i guarantee it.
I suggest you call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: (800) 799-SAFE (799-7233) for assistance in your area. (this is a US number, but i'll google for other numbers for you if you're not in the US.) you have to get help. your life could depend on it.
i think you should call the police, too. they should have his episodes documented. what he's doing to you is not only ethically wrong, it is legally wrong too. if he were hitting a stranger on the street, he'd get arrested. just because you're his wife it does not mean he has the right to lay a finger on you.
YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT.
stay safe. please.ghost
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