Posted by alesta on May 5, 2005, at 19:29:17
In reply to Re: ReFeeling sexual, Me too (whine), posted by Susan47 on May 4, 2005, at 18:36:27
hi sue,
> I think my T wasn't passionate, I think maybe he's not a passionate person, but I made him that way in my own mind because I am, you know? It's the passion I fell in love with, isn't that funny? That I created it then I fell in love with it.
hmmm..that it funny, susan. interesting. i know, i've created traits for people, too, i think..but that is so funny that you fell in love with a figment of your imagination..
<Silly and playful is good if it's done with passion.
yes, i agree.:)
<I am an extremely passionate person, but afraid that I do live it in every way possible, I do. I don't go out making an *ss of myself every day or anything, and there's lots I'd like to do but haven't done yet, but anything I do if I can't put myself completely into it I stop. I start and stop a lot of things. Most things, really. Because the passion in me is channelled into some very basic life experiences. The animal in my nature is close to the surface, and it fights my intellect all the time. Constantly, in fact.
i am very passionate, too! i understand exactly what you're saying. i could tell you were passionate..you are similar to me in that way.
> It's a huge struggle for me. And why would I choose unattainable men as objects of my passion? Why??? Is this chance, what happened? Or a pattern? Could this man really be maybe very ordinary, an ordinary everyday joe type of guy? If he weren't sitting in that seat, talking to me in that voice, looking at me in that way, wouldn't he just be another person, like any other therapist I've ever seen? I have seen a few BTW. And pdocs as well. GP's, you name it, no man has reached so deeply into my soul and taken out so much feeling.
thanks for the additional info, susan..it sounds like bloody chemistry (attraction) to me, if you haven't been attracted to other docs like that..and he might've assisted the chemistry by acting in subtly attractive ways..you know what i'm talking about..some guys/ppl put that vibe out there..are interested in making you attracted to them, for whatever reason, and some don't. (i say this assuming that it is not really about the variable of making your therapist more attractive in your own mind. is sounds now like it is more than that, perhaps..guessing..)
> It's not right. To walk away from that, to do that to someone, then walk away.
so you think it was the latter part of what i just said in the above paragraph..that he tried to act in subtly sexy ways? or do you think it was the former..that he just simply was sexy to you..(that there was simply chemistry there)?
> It's like being violated, it's a violation, it's a crime, a break and enter. A moving violation, a hit and run.
same question as above.
aim :-)
poster:alesta
thread:492110
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