Posted by alexandra_k on May 4, 2005, at 23:50:26
In reply to Re: ReFeeling sexual, Me too (whine) » alexandra_k, posted by Susan47 on May 2, 2005, at 11:48:11
> See, this is where you and I part ways in our thinking. Or perhaps it's in our experience. No matter what the spell is that he wove, no matter what the magic, I still felt love. Love is a feeling. When you experience it, you know it. You never forget it. I felt love from another source, and whether that source was my mind or not, is completely irrelevant. I learned love, see? Period. Absolutely no mystery to that in itself. None.
Okay.
If you define love as an experience, as a feeling
Then you can't be mistaken as to whether you have that feeling / experience or not.So if you felt that feeling then you loved him.
Sure, I agree.I don't think love just is an experience or a feeling, though. IMO love is something that persists through time.
I reckon that your feeling / experience of love is based on transference.
It wouldn't persist over time if you guys did hook up.
You could say that you love him and then it disappears...
Or you could say that you never really were in love (you just thought you were but you were mistaken)
What you say depends on how you define love.All I mean to say is that you feel that way because of transference and the test of that would be whether the feeling would remain if you were to have an equal (or at least more equal) relationship with him.
I think the feeling would go away.
And thats why I want to say it is based on transference
Or that it isn't genuine love.I don't think it would persist.
Do you?
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