Posted by emmanuel98 on February 10, 2009, at 1:39:52
In reply to Re: Developmental stages in therapy » emmanuel98, posted by DAisym on February 9, 2009, at 23:46:58
The hardest thing for me to accept -- I just could not accept this -- is that my T and I would never have a relationship outside of therapy. Never. I was so jealous of his wife and friends, not to mention his other patients. But one day I realized that, if we were friends, I would be a terrible friend to him. I would just want to follow him around and bask in his attention, like an abandoned puppy.
He keeps reminding me that he can't give me what I didn't get as a child. Even if he tried to, he couldn't, because I am not a child anymore and couldn't be a child again.
The hardest thing he's ever said -- you have to give that to yourself. You have to love and care for yourself.
That's the hard part. I have to remind myself over and over again that my sense that he is angry or withholding something says less about him than it does about me.
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