Posted by workinprogress on December 3, 2008, at 1:37:22
In reply to One little sentence - long, posted by DAisym on December 2, 2008, at 20:35:02
Daisy,
I so hear what you're saying. The wish, the disappointment at the response, the guilt. Your feelings are complex and oh so real. And they are YOUR feelings.... all ok.
It does sound to me like he tried, but like you said, he missed, it didn't feel good. It wasn't what you needed. It sounds like he'd want to hear that from you.
As for the wish. I just want to really really validate that. What a natural wish. And how brave of you to share it, to be that vulnerable, to show how much you care of him, how much you hurt. I too wish I could have grown up in my T's house. I'm jealous of her daughters sometimes. I want to crawl into her lap. I wish I could go home with her now. She always says, "in a perfect world you'd come home with me. But you have things to do and so do I and it just won't work that way unfortunately. This is a good substitute (the therapy room and relationship) but not like coming home with me." And we work to find other ways to deal with the deficiency... and I have my fantasy world. And I yearn and finally let myself feel that.
Hard stuff. Really hard stuff. But, feeling those feelings and sharing them... so brave, so important. I'm proud of you. Big hug to both Daisys!
WIP
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