Posted by rskontos on December 2, 2008, at 21:28:58
In reply to One little sentence - long, posted by DAisym on December 2, 2008, at 20:35:02
DAisym,
I may be off base, but could he, your therapist represent to your 8-year old Daisym all that is good with the world, and in wanting him to have taken you away from your father back then, you just wanted to be safe. I mean, probably even little Daisym knows that T couldn't have been there, because you did not know him, but he now represents all the good safe things for you. He has helped you learn to be safe while dealing with all that happened. Isn't it naturally to want the one person that helped with this be the "one" that delivered, or did delivered you (us) from all the abused that was happening. You were talking literally while he was thinking figuratively, but maybe little DAisym and Big DAisym were thinking both ways, that literally and figuratively you wished he would have been your dad and savior even though you do know he had no way to know what was happening.
And that it is ok to wish for that. The angst that is caused as much from the hurt that happened. I think it is ok to want what you want. I mean why would you not want him to be your dad?
He is a safe, protective and a loving person.It is ok. really.
rsk
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