Posted by All Done on December 3, 2008, at 0:31:28
In reply to One little sentence - long, posted by DAisym on December 2, 2008, at 20:35:02
Hi, Daisy.
I'm really sorry you're hurting so much. I'm glad you have the relationship with your T that you do, though. I know you'll be able to work this out.
Something Annierose said resonated with me..."But that doesn't mean he wouldn't want to rescue you - he wishes he could have saved you from your father." I'm wondering if you feel like I do because sometimes, when I share with my T wishes that involve him, it's not so much about my actual wishes as it is about his response to them. I want him to want the same thing as me. It validates my wish and it makes me feel cared for and loved. Unfortunately, it seems like he very rarely responds in kind when I tell him I wish I could have or could have had something from him. I'm sure there's a reason, but the lack of response (or tweaking his response to sound similar to what I want but not actually involving his personal thoughts) stings, and I can become pretty insecure with what I'm sharing with him. I think it's part of why I always ask him if it's okay to want something. Not only do I want him to confirm that it's okay, I want him to tell me it's what he would want, too.
Hmm...maybe this is just me and I'm way off target here. If so, sorry for rambling.
As always, I hope you can continue to discuss this with your T. I'm certain you can work it out and get to what you need.
Many gentle hugs to you,
Laurie
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